28 Nov Perfectionism… Just another excuse for your procrastination?
I feel that the above statement can be translated into many factors of people’s lives today and it is THE NUMBER ONE reason why so many people are failing in their pursuit of their goals. I can best relate this to you with a story from when I was a hormonal and testosterone-filled 18 year old boy.
Picture this scene: I’m at a bar on a Saturday, out with a few mates. We are gearing up for a big night on the drinks and my hopes and dreams are that I might find a lovely lady that will take fancy to my smooth talking and charming ways. I see the popular girl from school across the dance floor and we exchange a few pleasantry nods of acknowledgment. I think to myself, and of course boast to my mates… Tonight is the night. Tonight I am going to go over to her. Tonight I will make my move. Tonight will finally be the night that I take action, put all the cards on the line and ask her out.
BUT, I must have the “perfect” amount of drinks, because I’m always more charming when I have a few drinks.
AND, I must come up with the “perfect” line to approach her with, as I don’t want to sound like a bumbling fool when talking to the most popular girl at school.
AND, I must wait for the “perfect” time to walk over to her, when she is alone and not surrounded by her friends and that big group of guys.
AND, I must make my hair look “perfect” (yes, I used to have hair).
AND, I have to have “perfect” breath, so I better chew on some gum.
AND, did I put my favourite cologne on and do I smell “perfect”?
Now, you may all be having a laugh at my expense as you picture a young and nervous teenage version of myself looking to do the simple task of asking out a girl, and I hope you are, because I was certainly no ladies man…
But, doesn’t this situation sound very familiar?
Don’t we all wait to find that “perfect” time for situations where we are looking to take a step to further ourselves in life?
Be it lose weight, asking our boss for a raise or promotion, start a new career, go into business for yourself, buy a house or simply to ask a girl to dance?
Now I’m not one to talk, as I have been just as guilty using the needs-to-be-perfect excuse on many occasions in the past and would attribute a lack of progression down to this very reason. This is my burden to bear and I am certainly self-aware enough that I don’t blame things like the market, location or right business plan for why I haven’t achieved what I have wanted to in life.
It comes down to one thing and one thing only, get up and do the work. Start with anything and begin to track and see what works and what doesn’t. Sure, there will be failures and there will be times when you make mistakes, however you’ll never know unless you give it a go and find out.
Now I absolutely respect that everyone is at different stages in life and you may have varying issues that play out from day to day that cause you to act in different ways. A person who has just lost a loved one, a single mother to 3 young children or a young family with a mortgage are all at different stages and will all have different responses to each of their own situational challenges.
However, we were all born with the one precious commodity that I feel we all take for granted and that is time. I think the following quote sums it up perfectly: “If you find that more than half of your waking time, is spent doing what you have to do, instead of what you want to do, somebody else is spending your treasure, because your treasure is time.” Not a truer sentence have I ever heard. (Click here for full video)
From birth we are all given 24 hours in each and every day to do with as we choose. What you choose to do with that time is up to you and in the end is all that really matters.
Stop using excuses like the ones above to justify your procrastination, because let’s face it, it’s the fear of failure that we are all scared of and not success.